DEFENSE PATTERN COLLECTION

Living scenarios of defensive speech

66 cards: real dialogues, break-points, working moves and insights — grouped by life domain and Mindloom regimes.

Living scenarios of defensive speech

We've stopped hearing each other

Who's more to blame

The silent war

Together but not really

Both in hysterics

Tears as the final argument

The endless monologue of pain

The care that suffocates

If you really loved me

You imagined it (gaslighting)

You owe me

I do everything for you, and you...

The first honest conversation

I'm sorry

I need help

Let's solve this together

Sex instead of conversation

I need time alone

The perfect first week

Why aren't you answering

Ghosting

Not ready, but not leaving

You're not what I thought

Are we together or not?

Jealous = loves me

Too fast, too close

You abandoned us

I'm disappointed in you

Mother knows best

When are the grandkids?

We invested so much in you

You've changed, I don't recognize you

Don't air dirty laundry

First conversation as equals

You don't understand me! (teen)

I hate you!

The child lies

The child shut down

Mom said you're bad (divorce)

How to share bad news

First serious talk with a teen

The boss is always right

Passive-aggressive coworker

Feedback you can't accept

You won't get the promotion

Colleague claims your work

Resignation: how to say it

Toxic team

Constructive disagreement

Asking for a raise

The newcomer no one accepts

One-way friendship

The friend who's always about herself

Unspoken envy

Betrayal of trust

'Let's catch up sometime'

Friendship after a fight

Friend in crisis

I'll never make it

It's all my fault

I have to be perfect

I feel nothing

Why do I feel bad when everything's fine?

Allowing myself to make mistakes

I deserve rest

Inner critic vs inner defender